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The Gift of Full Attention
Somewhere along the way, being busy became a personality. The cost of this shows up most clearly in intimacy.
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The Places Worth Finding
Every city has a place that doesn’t show up on any best-of list. The best ones share a quality that…
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On Knowing Yourself
Solo sex gets talked about in two registers and neither is quite right. Both miss what’s actually interesting about it.
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How Desire Changes
Desire has a reputation for being simple. You want something or you don’t. But spend enough time paying attention and…
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The Unspoken Rules of Buying a Drink
Nobody talks honestly about the social economy of the bar anymore. Who buys, who receives, what it signals, what’s expected…
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The Conversation You Keep Not Having
There is a conversation most couples have never had. Not because they don’t care. Because they’re afraid of what honest…
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The Conversation We Keep Avoiding
There is one conversation that keeps not happening in relationships. Not the big dramatic ones. The quiet, specific one about…
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Fight Night
There is a specific kind of bar on a fight night. If you have been in one, you know exactly…
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The Last Word, After Hours
On the four-equal-parts cocktail and why the late hour belongs to it.
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What Actually Makes Someone Attractive
The most attractive thing about a person is the moment you realize they are completely, unapologetically themselves.